Do You Prefer Sex with Ghosts or Humans?
One day, as I was sitting at my kitchen table writing an article for my blog and waiting for the milk to boil (because it always spills over), I received a phone call.
"Hello" the voice said, "we’d like to have you on our podcast, Besser Als Sex." Excited, I asked what we’d be discussing. Her response? "Sex with ghosts."
I’d heard stories about this phenomenon before. For example, a woman in the UK named Amethyst claimed to have sexual encounters with a ghost and even wanted to conceive a child with the spirit.
The concept intrigued me—not because I had experienced it personally but because I had encountered similar stories with my friends and clients.
A dear friend once told me about her daughter, who reported nightly sexual encounters with a ghost in their London home.
When the family moved, the new tenants experienced similar disturbances, suggesting the spirit had stayed behind.
These stories made me wonder—how does this happen? And what does it mean?
Spectrophilia: Sex and the Spirit World
The phenomenon of having sexual encounters with ghosts is called spectrophilia. It’s a concept that has been chronicled for centuries, crossing cultural and historical boundaries.
Many ancient traditions speak of spirits like the incubus and succubus—male and female entities said to engage in sexual activity with humans while they sleep. These encounters were even believed to have played a role in the conception of witches.
In modern times, spectrophilia can be understood in two ways:
- as a fetish where individuals derive sexual pleasure from the idea of spirits
- or as literal experiences where humans claim to have had intimate interactions with ghosts.
Some dismiss it as fantasy or mental illness, but others argue it’s a manifestation of unresolved sexual energy or emotional needs.
The Aura’s Role in Attracting Spirits
From my perspective as a psychic medium, sexual energy—like all energy—creates ripples in our aura.
When humans suppress their desires, block intimacy, or experience trauma in their relationships, it can create voids or imbalances.
These gaps may attract spirits, particularly those with lingering sexual energy from their earthly lives.
For example, when a parent stops having sex, children in the home may unconsciously absorb this energy, creating a vacuum that draws in spirits seeking human sensations like orgasm.
Wet Dreams or Wet Pussy
Whether you believe it or not, if you’ve ever had a wet dream or experienced arousal in your sleep, you’ve touched upon what spectrophilia might feel like.
These sensations blur the lines between the physical and spiritual realms. It could occur in males and females. Men are likely to believe it because they ejaculate and see the evidence, whereas women feel it but may not be sure if it actually happened.
Some people dismiss such phenomena as mental illness, but I believe fear is what creates mental disturbances.
When humans encounter ghosts or spirits, they often have no idea how to deal with them.
They perceive spirits as stronger and more powerful than themselves, which triggers the mind to create visions shaped by personal and media perceptions. This confusion can spiral into mental chaos.
Sex with Ghosts is anything but Sexy
When we think about sex with ghosts, people often assume it’s impossible, crazy, or brings bad luck. But the truth is, it’s just another way to discover the paranormal and the existence of spirits around us.
It’s not an everyday occurrence. It could happen when we drastically miss sex and numb ourselves to those feelings or when we’re too afraid to expose ourselves to intimacy with another human.
In situations where someone is trapped in a bad relationship or unable to leave, blocking sexual energy can create black spots in the body, which medical science might even label as cancer.
When we deny our sexual needs for too long, it can create gaps in our soul and aura. These gaps attract spirits who are stuck in lower vibrational states and seek to experience human sensations.
Spectrophilia in History
Since the dawn of humanity, we’ve asked questions about the supernatural, ghosts, and spirituality.
Cultures worldwide have beliefs about spirits lingering beyond death. Legends like the incubus and succubus come to mind—male and female spirits believed to seduce sleeping humans.
In early Mesopotamian lore, incubi were said to engage with women, while succubi seduced men. These encounters were even thought to result in the conception of witches—a blend of supernatural and human forces.
Whether or not you believe in these legends, they remind us that sexually charged spiritual beings have long been a part of human history.
Psycholagny: Orgasm Without Touch
There’s a term called psycholagny, which refers to achieving orgasm without any physical stimulation.
A perfect example is wet dreams, where we can orgasm while asleep.
If wet dreams are possible, it’s not such a stretch to believe that a perceived spirit could bring you to one of the most intense climaxes of your life.
Astral Sex is a Thing
Similar to psychic orgasms, astral sex is a phenomenon people claim to have experienced.
It involves projecting your spirit out of your body to have sex with someone—sometimes a partner and sometimes a being on another plane of existence.
Astral sex practitioners believe that it transcends the limitations of physical intimacy, creating a connection that’s deeply spiritual.
While it may sound outlandish, is it really that different from hypnotherapy, which countless women use to conquer the pain of childbirth?
A Wicked Cum or a Sex Whore to Spirits?
When partners exchange energy during intimacy, they create a vortex in the astral realm. Every relationship has 13 dimensions or layers of energy.
Sexual experiences with humans allow you to anchor this energy on the third dimension, deepening the connection.
With ghosts, however, the energy remains stuck in the fourth dimension, where the spirit resides.
This limitation makes the experience addictive, like a drug, offering effortless pleasure without physical effort or mental endeavors.
Over time, you might find yourself craving this low-vibration connection more and more.
Spectrophilia in Modern Context
Despite skepticism, stories of spectrophilia have persisted across cultures and eras.
They are a testament to humanity’s deep curiosity about the supernatural and its intersection with our most intimate experiences.
Whether these encounters are literal, symbolic, or psychological, they challenge us to expand our understanding of energy, intimacy, and the unseen.
The Risk of Attachment
While some find comfort or excitement in sexual encounters with spirits, these experiences can also create dependencies.
Much like addiction, the effortless pleasure provided by a spirit can prevent individuals from seeking meaningful connections with other humans.
This attachment can delay spiritual growth for both the person and the spirit involved, trapping them in lower vibrational energies.
Ancient Egyptian Rituals: Isis and Osiris
The ancient Egyptians, particularly through the myths of Isis and Osiris, understood the profound power of sexual energy in rituals.
Isis, known for her magical abilities, is said to have used tools and incantations to achieve orgasmic states without physical intercourse.
These practices often involved a male and female participant working together to channel their energies, creating a sacred union that transcended the physical plane.
The purpose of these rituals was not just pleasure but to harness this potent energy for spiritual awakening and transformation.
The 13 Layers of Energy and Dimensions
Everything in existence—from love to consciousness to sexual energy—operates on 13 layers of density and dimensions.
These layers represent different vibrational states, from the physical to the ethereal. Sexual energy, when exchanged, creates a vortex that moves through these dimensions.
In relationships, this can manifest as deeper emotional and spiritual connections. However, with spirits, this energy often remains trapped in lower dimensions, limiting the experience to the fourth density.
To fully evolve, one must channel this energy with intention, anchoring it in the higher realms of love, healing, and spiritual growth.
Dion Fortune: Sex, Magic, and Healing
The renowned occultist Dion Fortune believed in the transformative power of sexual energy.
In her writings, particularly in works like The Mystical Qabalah and The Esoteric Philosophy of Love and Marriage, she described sexual energy as a powerful, sacred force capable of bridging the material and spiritual realms.
Fortune believed that sexual union when aligned with spiritual intent, could transcend physical pleasure to become a potent means of spiritual evolution and healing.
She often wrote of the balance of masculine and feminine energies, viewing their union as a microcosmic reflection of cosmic creation, channeling divine power into the earthly plane.
Fortune was known to practice sex magic within the framework of her rituals as part of the Fraternity of the Inner Light, her esoteric order.
These rituals aimed to harness the transformative power of sexual energy, not for personal gratification but for higher purposes such as healing and magical manifestation.
She viewed these acts as deeply sacred, requiring mutual consent, intention, and a high level of spiritual discipline.
For Fortune, sex was not merely a physical act but a ritualistic collaboration with the divine, creating energetic ripples that could influence both the individual and the collective consciousness.
Conclusion: Exploring the Unseen
Sexual energy is a powerful force that can connect us to higher realms or leave us entangled in lower vibrations.
Whether through spectrophilia, astral sex, or physical intimacy, how we engage with this energy shapes our spiritual journey.
The key is to approach these experiences with awareness, intention, and love—seeking not just pleasure but transformation and connection.
So, what do you think? Could sex with ghosts be a gateway to spiritual exploration, or is it simply a fascinating quirk of human imagination?
Let me know your thoughts below or share your own experiences.
